Strengthen Your Support

Learn About Support Needs

(The third level on the Adapted Hierarchy of Needs - AHON) There is strength in numbers which gives rise to community building and social bonding. Finding like-minded people, as well as those individuals and groups whose strengths compliments our own, allows for growth through efficiency and preservation of what we have worked to build. Our Support consists of our spouse or partner and also family and friends. This section on our Balance of Life (BOL) wheel is influenced by the quality of our Survival needs (physical and emotional health). Looking back at the Balance of Life wheel, this means that your relationship with your partner directly correlates with the quality of your physical health and the quality of relationship you enjoy with your family & friends directly correlates with your emotional health. Do you struggle to enjoy your relationships without drama popping up? Review your circle today! Click To Tweet

What Support Entails

We have two kinds of Support: Emotional and Validated Support. No matter who is in our circles, they can be categorized in the two groups above. Emotional Supporters are people who drain our energy buckets more than they fill it, while Validated Supporters are people who add to and fill our buckets and life with energy by Supporting our Identities. Having great Support entails identifying who to keep investing in among your Support network, which people to create boundaries with and those with whom you have to create distance. It is important to take this seriously as it creates your environment, affecting your Survival and overall Balance. Remember, their Balance affects yours and the quality of life they lead trickles down to yours. If it is full of noise, this noise will leak into your Balance as well. Below are pages to learn more about how to identify the needs above and who to lean on as a secure source of validation.

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Boost Your Support Needs

Making time to regularly review your Support network and making sure you are leaning on the right circle of people is important. It has a direct impact on the level of noise that leaks into your Balance of Life and influences the quality of life you live. This often proves to be an emotionally challenging process for people because it involves re-thinking about those in the circle and working to re-establish boundaries this many times throws the other party (emotional Support) off-guard, and, as shared in the step by step pages above, a lot of manipulation and emotional games (noise) comes into play. While you work to push on this, be sure to seek Support from our mentors in mentoring groups. Create a plan for the next steps you need to take and follow them up with a mentor. While you strengthen your Support, start thinking about how to rise to Significance - where you can start using the growth and experiences you've had to teach and bring an impact to the lives of others.

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