FAQs

Frequently Asked Questions

Mentoring is the support that a person gets from someone who has the awareness, skills, knowledge and most of all, the fruits of the goal that is being sought by the mentee. It is therefore different from the short term hype that one gets from motivational speakers and inspirational books/videos.  Those get you excited to move with no clear path on which to start.

A mentor, however, is a person who has the know-how to get you out of your struggles and walks that path beside you until the desired goal is reached.  Are you ready to have the Support from someone who knows?  Click here to pick the mentoring program that will add the most value to you.

The roots of mentoring go back to ancient Greece.  ln years past, mentoring was sought from parents and adults within a community. Older people were looked at as wise, and the people who had enough experience to offer solutions.

People later broke from strong community setups to concentrate on smaller groups, while others realized that old age did not necessarily mean wisdom and ability to offer workable solutions.

As time went by, the need for support turned into a professional Opportunity for those who showed a passion and strength in supporting and impacting others.

Mentoring works and the results are consistently adding value in people’s lives. The secret to seeing the mentoring process actually work is searching for mentors who already have the fruits being sought. A person can only give you what they have, and if their own life is full of chaos, then that is what they would bring to you.

LifeMAPP mentoring uses models which have been proven to be simple, fast and effective. The mentors not only live with fruits but also have the first-hand experience in knowing how to reach for those fruits. There are core LifeMAPP membership programs that offer guaranteed results, click on the ‘Mentoring Programs’ tab to pick the group that meets your needs.

Mentoring brings in the value that you want to add to your life. If you feel you are struggling, a mentor will help you identify and block all the chaos that has been keeping you away from your Ideal Life.

Mentoring is also for people who feel they are ‘almost there’ in achieving their goals but sense a gap that pushes them backward.

Don’t feel like you have problems to resolve? Mentoring can also just strengthen existing frameworks in place, fine-tuning the tools you already have to get to the next place in life. The ‘Mentoring Programs’ tab will highlight which mentoring program would work best for you.

A free level of LifeMAPP membership on our site where a person is discovering themselves and self-learning in order to improve their lives at a more profound level, and is preparing for the Challenger level.

Explorers have personalized articles, videos, and groups which they use for self-learning. After working to build a Balanced lifestyle,they can also choose to become volunteer ambassadors. This then opens up other LifeMAPP Opportunities. Enroll as a free member today!

A paid membership level of LifeMAPP participation where members are serious about making a change.  It is for those who are ready to be challenged and supported to move towards their goals quickly.

Challengers have access to LifeMAPP Mentors, full articles, personalized challenges and videos that help them through this process. Jumpstart your growth and join today.

A membership level of LifeMAPP participation where a person wants to strengthen their startup or existing businesses. This membership level allows one to have free access on all other memberships and is the highest paid membership level. Enrol today and take advantage of the great price offerings.

A membership level of LifeMAPP participation where a person has mastered the Explorer and Challenger levels, enjoys a Balanced lifestyle and has a passion for helping others. Active members are invited by the LifeMAPP team to join this group or can work their way towards becoming a Maestro.

A membership level of LifeMAPP participation where a person lives a life of Significance. They already live a Balanced lifestyle and are using their time, energy and resources to give back to others. They live a life of legacy.

There is a great framework already set up for you. How you fit and where you fit depends on your needs and how quickly you want to achieve results towards your goals. Whether you start at the bottom and work your way up, or choose to fly right away and get started, there is a membership program that will do just that!

You are welcome to start on our free Explorer program, but if it is quick results you want to see, Challenger or the Business Program is the place to be.

LifeMAPP mentoring utilizes unique and effective teaching models. Results can be seen in short time frames if not immediately after implementing. All LifeMAPP Mentors are well trained on all assessment tools and models before they can mentor anyone.

They have all had first-hand experience of learning and executing of our models. All mentoring is supervised by Dave Darby, the Founder and Master Mentor at LifeMAPP. He has over 20 years of successfully mentoring people to their desired goals. Check out our founder’s page to learn more.

LifeMAPP mentoring programs have unique frameworks set within them that will enable you to immediately add value in your life, depending on your most priority needs. The program is set in different membership levels as highlighted above, and various fun ways of learning like mentoring, articles, courses, videos, SlideShares and so much more. Each membership is also set in packages that enable you to save your investments (weekly, monthly, quarterly and annually.)

 

Actually, many people think that and most times it does. Quality mentoring like we do at LifeMAPP IS an investment and you get what you pay for in life. However, the LifeMAPP mentoring model is breaking new ground. We are utilizing technology and small groups to scale our services while  providing the same high quality that we do in individuals sessions. This enables everyone to benefit from quality mentoring, but at a fraction of the cost.

If you need mentoring but are struggling financially, get started as our Explorer Member where you will enjoy free articles, slide shares, videos and also be part of a self-learning peer group. You can also apply for our scholarship.

We review each submission on a case by case basis, first come, first serve. We are currently offering 10 scholarships per month ($129/month value each) and we will not be able to meet everybody’s needs at once. So don’t hesitate to submit and be patient as we want great people with great energy like you around!

We would you to be a LifeMAPP member, but that is a personal choice. Although you don’t have to be a member in order to purchase, like any other normal online purchase, you will need to enter your basic information so as to ensure a smooth purchase experience. Check out our products and services.

We are here for YOU. We want you to find all the support and  resources you need to get out of your struggles and find your ground to stand strong. Sometimes you’re in the right place but it’s just not the right time. We understand completely.

To cancel your paid membership, just click on MY ACCOUNT from your member menu. (Find the menu at the top right corner of any page. Click your username to access the menus.) Then click on “Recent Orders” and you will see your order.  Click on the blue VIEW button to cancel your order.

If you choose to cancel in the middle of your membership, your membership will continue out it’s allotted time and will then not re-bill.   At the end of the billing cycle, your account will automatically change to the free Explorer membership where you can still self-learn at your own pace.  Just note:  Challenger level articles will not be visible to the Explorer group. Your data will remain in the system for one year. This means you can return and pick up where you left off with your paid membership when you are ready to resume.

If you live a Balanced lifestyle and are passionate about growth and giving back, we would love you to join us. Our Ambassador team start off by giving back via participating in our programs, be it online or in the field. While they do this, they also get on the front line to be considered for other available paid positions.

Our partners are individuals or groups/organizations who already have training frameworks in place. Using their existing paying connections, we get on a joint venture where we will expand the marketing strategies and provide unique and effective content to train with. Using the strengths of both sides, our partners quickly grow both on personal improvement and also enjoy increased resources. If you are interested and want to learn more, visit our partner program page.

To join as a mentor, the process is the same as any other paid position and career interests. Join as an ambassador while you work your way to our Maestro membership and mentoring position, starting as a Recruit Mentor.

We appreciate the fact that you come in with the experience of Supporting others. LifeMAPP uses its own simple, fast, effective and proven to work models. For this reason, you will need to join as an ambassador, learn our models and implement them in your personal life before you can start mentoring others.

We love to offer Opportunities to those who have been contributing to our team and already impacting others. This is why our career Opportunities are available for our existing ambassadors. To join our team and be on the frontline to gain from our paid positions, join as our ambassador for free. Check out our available career Opportunities.

LifeMAPP is a global online mentoring network for leaders and high-octane individuals, teams and parents who are actively building their ideal lives, careers, businesses, and families.

People who join LifeMAPP are passionate and compassionate, driven yet empathic and are seeking to block out the noise of the world and follow their own path guided by the wisdom of worthy leaders/mentors.

Services include free membership with group support, paid membership with Mentor support and blogging as well as a la carte services such as online classes and individual mentoring. Areas of focus include personal growth, relationships, marriage, parenting, career performance, business sales, marketing and negotiating.

There are 2 perspectives people generally identify with and are usually responsible for the noticeable differences from person to person: Interaction Styles and ViewPoints. Interaction Styles help explain the (upper-case) MAPP portion of LifeMAPP, and Viewpoints help explain the (lower-case) mapp portion of lifemapp.

MAPP on Interaction Styles means:

M = Maestros, they like to conduct and like to be experts, usually in a leadership capacity

A = Adventurers, they like to push the envelope and love entertaining people and ideas

P = People Pleasers, they like to follow systems and leaders, they like routine

P = Perfectionists, they like systems (sometimes to create) and like to follow (and they insist others follow systems too)

mapp on View Points means:

m = movement, these people like to see change and be part of it, future-minded

a = activism, these people are idealists focused on causes related to people and needs

p = protection, focus on protecting traditions, assets, routines etc

p = pleasure (seekers)

There are two correct ways to spell our name: either “LifeMAPP” or “lifemapp”.  MAPP (capitalized) is used when we refer to the team, methodologies, organization etc.  And ‘mapp’ (lower case) is used when referring to emails and the website.

Remember, the most important name anyone will ever hear is their own, and so we will love hearing and enjoy seeing it spelled correctly – LifeMAPP/lifemapp.

Our logo represents the dichotomy and pathway between Survival and Significance. The very essence of “life” is Survival and our Survival is enabled by the sun which controls and facilitates the organisms and interactions of life on Earth.

The arrow represents a path, a target or a goal towards growth and Significance and the ensuing “MAPP” that guides our lives to our chosen destinations and journeys.

The blue is representative of the heights of the sky and the top of the Adapted Hierarchy of Needs pyramid (adapted by Dave Darby – Founder and Master Mentor at LifeMAPP).

A lens is something one looks through which provides information about something; a perspective. A lens can be removed and replaced with a different lens, depending on what one wants to focus on. The LifeMAPP lens is the LifeMAPP perspective on a particular issue and our way of looking and understanding something.

LifeMAPP lens uses 3 models that mentors make use of while working with others and they are: the Adapted Hierarchy of Needs (AHON), Identity Gap and the BrainMAPP.

LifeMAPP also has other supporting models which bring huge insight into the 3 main models and people’s journey for growth. For more details, check out our ‘MODELS’ tab.

Taken separately, they are just bits of data or threads but taken together they begin to form a story, a tapestry of the person’s life.

Adapted Hierarchy of Needs is the main model of LifeMAPP and is adapted by Founder and Master Mentor Dave Darby from Abraham Maslow’s work. It is referred to in short, as the AHON. LifeMAPP’s AHON consists of four major categories, each divided into two, making them 8 subcategories:

Survival (physical health and emotional health);

Security (resources & safety net and skills & systems);

Support (spouse/partner and family & friends);

Significance (Personal growth and philanthropy & teaching).

The Balance of Life (BOL) is a tool to assess one’s place as well as the focus (or need for focus) within the Adapted Hierarchy of Needs (AHON). It is the tool that we use to help people identify their current balance and use it to work towards more Balance and sustaining it.

Needs are the essential factors that individuals have on the hierarchy (AHON) and thus life. These needs could be deficiencies which would need balancing or they could be ones that simply have to be sustained in order to continue living a Balanced life. Use our needs assessments to measure your needs.

Basic physical and emotional health is the foundation of survival and basic life. If overlooked, these areas can flatten your tire and bring your ride to a sudden and/or complete halt. Often in pursuit of other needs in life, we need to stop and restructure our time to protect our health. Learn more about Survival.

Resources and safety nets are those tangible items that provide safety for your survival like a house, car, savings, and investments. Skills and systems are the intangibles you have allowed you to build/renew the tangibles. You may own a business (system) or have marketable job skills to grow income and/or handyman skills to work to protect your resources. Learn more about Security.

There is strength in numbers which gives rise to community building and social bonding. Finding like-minded people as well as those individuals and groups whose strengths compliments our own, allowing us growth through efficiency and preservation of what we have worked to build. Learn more about Support. 

The significance is a state and a lifestyle that describes the highest level on our core model: Adapted Hierarchy of Needs (AHON).It is a term used to show awareness and focus on others which are opposite of what Survival is focused on oneself.

The significance is the pinnacle of life and legacy building. It is one’s pursuit and accomplishment of personal growth and the ability to give back to others through the sacrifice of resources such as time, money, etc. These are people who strive for personal growth and seek to live in their strengths, not their weaknesses and also seek to create an environment of lasting fulfillment and happiness (both for themselves and others). Learn more about Significance.

The Identity Gap  is a model developed by Dave Darby which is a major contribution to explaining the causes, effects and ways to resolve conflicts and frustrations in a person and their relationships. It is used to assess friction in one’s Support system and, therefore, Balance of Life.

This model is used to explain behaviors from the everyday conflicts that we experience in our homes and workplaces to the huge issues that torment the world such as suicide, crime, depression and other psychological disorders.

Validation is a core human, psychological need. Some people are conditioned to chase everyone’s approval while others condition themselves not to need anyone’s Validation. This is part of a supporting model which brings into awareness how to create a healthy group of Validators.

The RA•DAR is part of the Identity GAP model. Dave Darby developed this acronym to teach and explain the process of managing and resolving our Identity Gaps.

R – Recognize

A – Adapt

D – Deny

A – Accept

R – Reject

This is a model that explains behaviors from the everyday conflicts that we experience in our homes and workplaces to the huge issues that torment the world such as suicide, crime, depression and other psychological disorders. It is a major contribution to explaining the causes, effects and ways to resolve conflicts and frustrations in a person and their relationships.

The Personality as Needs (PAN) is a LifeMAPP assessment tool used to evaluate the AHON and which also helps us bridge the Identity Gap. We develop our Personalities to sync with our environment. The better we understand our Personalities and those around us, the better we can navigate and build out our Balance.

This matrix is based on our interaction style & viewpoints. There are 16 core types of personalities resulting from 4 Interaction Styles and 4 ViewPoints. Our interactions depend on our needs and when our needs change it impacts our personalities.

It is a method of teaching and practice of communication in LifeMAPP.

CEO is a desirable title of power/control many associate as the leader of a company – Chief Executive Officer which makes it memorable to Westerners, but at LifeMAPP, it’s an acronym instead for Connect | Engage | Offer which really is the empowering/teaching of others towards better communication. Learning and using it adds great value to the quality of relationships one will have in both their personal and business lives.

Sustainability of Business (SOB) is a business model and implementation based on the Adapted Hierarchy of Needs (AHON) which helps business owners to envision, plan, create and maintain a sustainable business, thus ensure a strong Security for a person and their Balance in life.

Knowledge or understanding; the ability to notice things; the ability to take different perspectives which come as a result of understanding one’s own needs and that of others as well.

The ability to see/feel through another’s perspective.At LifeMAPP, we empathize and use our lens of methodologies to understand a person’s life and Support them where this is needed.

Identifying and eliminating obstacles to a goal in order to focus more deeply. Identify factors in the environment that create frustrations and stress and then create boundaries that minimize or completely eliminate their negative impact to your life. This could be a certain relationship, issue, a particular person or something else. We can not change our environment completely, but we are capable of choosing how they impact us.

Finding relationships and activities which support you, and investing in them so as to surround oneself with a healthy circle of relationships.

These are people around us who meet some of our needs but due to being in Survival, and living as our emotional Support (as opposed to the ideal; Validated Support), they tend to drain our buckets by bringing in noise /distractions to our lives.

A situation in which one participant’s gains result only from another participant’s equivalent losses. It is an example of someone operating from Survival and so focuses on the self which brings forth a win-lose scenario.

A cooperative game is a game where groups of players (“coalitions”) may enforce cooperative behavior, hence the game is a competition between coalitions of players, rather than between individual players. LifeMAPP teaches a collaborative interaction style where individuals are taught to achieve their needs by giving others what they need thus coming to a win-win situation.

Like playing chess or checkers or any game that involves decision-making and strategy: when using game theory, we begin with the end in mind.Most people don’t do this so they begin with the beginning or next step in mind, taking one step at a time and having no idea where their choices may lead which just makes a person plan for their ideal scenario/result in mind but crosses off any other possibilities that exist.

We have heard time and again that when Preparedness meets Opportunities, then Results occur (Preparedness + Opportunity = Results). In the past, the term Preparedness hasn’t really been discussed at depth but with us it is. Preparedness has been broken down into 3 little steps: Focus, Persistence, and Delivery.

At LifeMAPP, we believe that growth and change occur when there is: a) awareness and b) Opportunities. We, therefore, work online and in the field (communities) to not only create awareness about our methodologies, teach about preparedness and how these can bring growth, but also create real Opportunities for people. We do this both by directly creating job Opportunities and also by networking with others to do this. Some people lead by using fears and others by giving hope. At LifeMAPP, we lead by creating awareness and Opportunities.

We have two types of costs: real cost (what you actually use in terms of time/energy/resources) and Opportunity Cost (Opportunity costs are the Opportunities that one cannot do when choosing another/different path)

Opportunity Costs are, the benefits you could have received by taking an alternative action. For example, if a person has a project they are investing in, then the real cost would be all the expenses and resources being out into that project, while Opportunity Cost would be all the other options not taken, that the same resources could have been used for. E.g, this could be a vacation, use the resources for savings, use it for family events, use it for yet another business idea etc. Learn more about Opportunities and maximizing your gains.

An initiative (modeled in Kenya) to provide educational facilities and LifeMAPP-based teachings to the local communities which will be replicated in other areas around the globe. If you are in the USA, find out if there is a workshop near you.

We have been historically programmed to have men concentrate on the first two levels of the AHON, i.e Survival and Security (search for food and shelter), and have women deal with Support and Significance (taking care of children and community) issues.

This more often than not creates an imbalance in individuals and how they manage themselves in relationships. Frustrations and Identity Gaps occur when a specific gender feels their role being threatened and conflicts occur as a result. LifeMAPP teaches a more balanced life where both genders are rounded through all the levels of the hierarchy and well equipped to deal with all the needs that come with each stage.

A model represents a system that explains why something is the way it is and also allows for the prediction of outcomes.

LifeMAPP models are proven to have helped many people in creating awareness about their lives, identifying where their misconceptions are and changing their outcomes in life by making different choices as per the teachings of LifeMAPP models.

LifeMAPP uses unique models to help people in their journeys of self-exploration and growth. These help you not only to grow as an individual but better understand and improve the relationships that you are in – be it one that involves family, friends or the business world.

Some of these models are updated to meet our needs better, from already existing theories (such as the work of Abraham Maslow and Carl Yung), and some are fresh new concepts that are unique and have been developed by LifeMAPP’s founder Dave Darby such as the Identity Gap and BrainMAPP.

Dave already simplified the complex areas for us and has translated all the knowledge into simple, easy to understand and follow the step formats that allow us to quickly and effectively transform.

LifeMAPP lens uses 3 core models and 7 supporting models which are used to measure and manage our needs.

Our 3 Core Models:

Adapted Hierarchy of Needs (AHON),

Identity Gap

• BrainMAPP

Our 7 Supporting Models:

• Hierarchy of Validation (HOV)

• Progression of Ideal Life (PIL)

• RA*DAR

• Personality as Needs (PAN)

• Connect, Engage & Offer (CEO)

• Sustainability of Business (SOB)

Taken separately, they are just bits of data or threads but taken together they begin to form a story, a tapestry of the person’s life.

As these methodologies are internalized, understood, reflected on, and practiced, it becomes one of the best ways to connect to the people you’re connecting to – what is their Balance like, what is their Personality and what kind of Identity Gaps they have.

This then helps one to make the choice of taking steps to move into or out of relationships, to hire an employee or not, to close a business deal or not and so forth.

The Adapted Hierarchy of Needs is the main model of LifeMAPP and is adapted by Founder and Master Mentor Dave Darby. It is referred to as the AHON.

LifeMAPP’s AHON consists of four major categories, each divided into two, making them 8 subcategories:

● Survival (physical and emotional health needs)

● Security (resources & safety nets and skills & systems)

● Support (spouse/partner and family & friends)

● Significance (Personal growth and philanthropy & teaching)

We often carry information and save it in our long-term memories without much questioning. We later work on autopilot, unaware of the factors that push us to think, feel and act as we do. BrainMAPP is a model that will teach you to operate in awareness by cleaning up all the unquestioned noise that is in your limbic brain.

It is the gap between who we see ourselves as and who others see us as.

The Identity Gap is a model developed by Dave Darby  which  is a major contribution to explaining the causes, effects and ways to resolve conflicts and frustrations in a person and their relationships. It is used to assess friction in one’s Support system and therefore, the Balance of Life.

Validation is a core human, psychological need. Some people are conditioned to chase everyone’s validation while others condition themselves not to need anyone’s validation. Most people struggle by being in one of these extremes, thus bringing a lot of friction in their lives. This model teaches us how to identify the virtual validators that we lean on (masks that we use in place of healthy and key validators). It also highlights and teaches us how to create and surround ourselves with key Supporters in our lives.

The Progression of Ideal Life (PIL), is a model that brings together the Identity Gap (IG) and measures them on the Adapted Hierarchy of Needs (AHON) for you. Use this model to measure your gaps and learn what you need to do, in order to enjoy both a Balanced and Significant life.

Dave Darby developed an acronym for the process of managing our Identity Gaps and called it RA•DAR as we need to have personal radars on to effectively manage and control the Identity Gap.

R – Recognize

A – Adapt

D – Deny

A – Accept

R – Reject

Understanding the RADAR creates room for strong relationships and happier lives. The RADAR is great at creating insight into issues that the world struggles with such as abuse, addiction, terrorism, mental disorders, suicide and much more

The Personality as Needs (PAN) is a LifeMAPP assessment  tool used to evaluate the AHON and which also helps us bridge the Identity Gap.

According to the Personality Matrix, there are four different scales or dimensions of personality:

● Introvert vs. Extrovert (shortened by ‘i ‘& ‘e’)

● Sensor vs. Intuitive (Shortened by ‘s’ & ‘n’)

● Thinker vs. Feeler ( Shortened by ‘t’ & ‘f’)

● Judge vs. Perceiver ( Shortened by ‘j’ & ‘p’)

Out of these combinations, sixteen different types come up. They are all equally significant, each with its own strength, weaknesses, energy levels, view of the world, drives, values, and motivation.

Learn more about them in order to strengthen your personal, workplace and business relationships.

The Balance of Life (BOL) is an assessment tool to review the place where you operate the most, as well as your focus (or need for focus) within the Adapted Hierarchy of Needs (AHON). It is the tool that we use to help people identify their current level of Balance within 8 life areas and use it to work towards increasing and sustaining Balance.

It plays the role of moving us from the theory of the hierarchy, to practically making use of the concept in our lives by having us evaluate our Balance, work towards making ourselves more whole and finally sustaining that Balance (whereby we would be by then, in a position to help others towards their own Balance). Measure your Balance in life today!

It is a method of teaching and practice of communication in LifeMAPP.

CEO is a desirable title of power/control many associate as the leader of a company – Chief Executive Officer which makes it memorable to Westerners. But, at LifeMAPP, it’s an acronym instead for Connect | Engage | Offer which really is the empowering/teaching of others towards better communication. Therefore, learning and using it adds great value to the quality of relationships one will have in both their personal and business lives.

Sustainability Of Business (SOB) is a business model and implementation based on the Adapted Hierarchy of Needs (AHON) which helps business owners to envision, plan, create and maintain a sustainable business. It consists of:

  • Survival ( Market need and Product/Service Fulfilment)
  • Security (Resources & Safety net and Team building and Leadership)
  • Support (Marketing& Branding and Sales & Customer Service)
  • Significance (Profitability and Community Support)